Rebuilding Trust in Marriage

From Conflict to Connection: An Islamic Counselling Story

Brother M and Sister S came to Islamic counselling with themuslimcounsellor.com seeking a counsellor who held an Islamic perspective and had an impartial counselling style. They had previously been to generalised couples counselling. Counselling provides a safe space where each partner can express their concerns, and the solutions/expectations they may be carrying:

“If you only did this… we would be in a better place and not argue so much.”

As themuslimcounsellor.com, I notice the themes, the hurdles, the misunderstandings, and the communication styles which are inhibiting the couple from feeling more aligned with one another — presenting these back to the couple to gain their perspective and to allow them to unpack and explore their emotions and concerns in direct response to this.

Sister S described her experience of receiving Islamic counselling with themuslimcounsellor.com and how within the sessions she had felt ease in expressing herself. She described how attending sessions had created within her a conscious acknowledgement around trust — she would be understood — and this made the conscious effort of wanting to develop perspectives to empower herself.

Brother M admitted how he had not been able to understand why his wife had been so distant and angry with him. He wanted his wife to take ownership over her role as a Muslim wife but had not sought the same expectations for his own role as a Muslim husband.

I understand how culture — be it belonging to our ethnicity, our family of origin, or our own personal culture of how we want to live our life — can impact and affect relationships positively and negatively. Allah (SWT) has bestowed upon us all the gift of freedom of choice, and it is up to us how we exhibit this freedom for ourselves and on those around us.

All marriages are snowflakes — individual and unique. It is the coming together of two individuals who have matured and developed their own understandings of the world and simultaneously themselves. This sense of self can sometimes become hazed or lost when we get married.

Those seeking couples counselling with themuslimcounsellor.com can expect their genuine self to surface and learn the art of healthy collaboration with their partner, resulting in a more harmonious and genuine marriage, rooted in reason, diplomacy, and love.

​Through honest dialogue, guided reflection, and Islamic principles of mercy and forgiveness, they were able to rebuild emotional safety, renew their communication, and strengthen their bond with mutual respect and understanding.